Realities of life

The Oyo Empire: West Africa’s Forgotten Powerhouse When people talk about African empires, names like Mali and Songhai often take the spotlight. But tucked away in the history of what is now southwestern Nigeria lies the story of the Oyo Empire — a once-mighty Yoruba kingdom that ruled for centuries and shaped the region in ways that still echo today. Let’s dive into the fascinating world of Oyo and discover what made this empire one of West Africa’s great powers. A Kingdom Born of Legend According to Yoruba tradition, the Oyo Empire was founded by Oranyan , a descendant of Oduduwa , the mythical father of the Yoruba people. The empire began to take shape in the 14th century, growing from a modest city-state into a formidable force thanks to its strategic location in the open savannah — a perfect spot for farming, trade, and, perhaps most importantly, cavalry warfare. Politics Done Right (or at Least Balanced) One of the coolest things about Oyo was its political system. At th...

  Do you ever feel like you don't have enough time? Like you have little time for yourself because you're always balancing obligations, duties, and favors for other people? You're not by yourself if so. Many of us find it difficult to say "no," frequently due to a fear of disappointing people or losing out on opportunities. But what if the key to living a more purposeful, balanced, and happy life is learning to say "no"? Saying "no" is about establishing boundaries and putting your priorities first, not about being self-centered. Here are some helpful hints to get you started and how learning to say "no" may change your life. Why It's So Effective to Say "No". 1. Preserves Your Energy and Time There is a price for each "yes" you say. Every commitment, whether it's helping someone out, taking on an additional assignment, or going to another meeting, takes time and energy, which are resources that are difficu...

  Life-changing habits don’t have to be dramatic or require hours of commitment. Sometimes, the smallest tweaks to your daily routine can lead to profound transformations. If you’re looking for manageable changes that can elevate your productivity, mental well-being, and overall happiness, here are ten underrated habits worth incorporating into your life. 1. Start Your Day Without Your Phone Why it works: Beginning your day without immediately scrolling through notifications helps you set a calm and intentional tone. How to do it: Keep your phone out of reach when you sleep. Use a traditional alarm clock and dedicate the first 10–30 minutes of your morning to an activity like journaling, stretching, or enjoying a quiet cup of coffee. 2. Plan Tomorrow Today Why it works: Preparing for the next day clears your mind for restful sleep and ensures you wake up with a sense of direction. How to do it: Before bed, jot down 3–5 tasks you want to accomplish the next day. This simple act ...

  As the clock strikes midnight and we usher in the new year, it feels as if the world is offering us a blank canvas. The days ahead are not just marked on a calendar—they are possibilities waiting to unfold. There’s something uniquely inspiring about the start of a new year. It’s a time when optimism is contagious, dreams seem more attainable, and the world feels full of potential. This year, more than any other, seems to radiate a sense of opportunity. With the echoes of the past year still resonating, there is an undeniable energy in the air—an energy that tells us this new chapter will be different, filled with new experiences, fresh starts, and unexpected adventures. A Year of New Beginnings The beauty of a new year is that it allows us to reset. Whether or not we believe in the tradition of New Year’s resolutions, the idea of fresh starts can be invigorating. This year, the possibilities feel even more expansive. After a period of uncertainty, challenges, and change, we’re st...

  It’s hard fighting it every breaking day. Is it jealousy or is it greed or is it me not seeing myself where I want to be?. Many a time I’m drawn to taking my own life but when I think about the little set of people that’ll be hurt even though just for a short period I fight the feeling off just to wake up to it the next day 😪 . Yes everyone has problems and how do deal with them at times it feels like the solutions are adding more problems 😂 . To the world I’m this happy carefree child but am I really?.  Being too trusting can be an issue you know and that alone magnifies the feeling of depression when things go south. I may act all strong and rigid but deep down I’m just a child that is lost  😔 .

My heart yearns for what it doesn’t know it seeks,  Day In and out it feels like I be missing something but I’ve got no idea what,  Am I happy? Am I sad?  Do people love me? Most importantly......do I love myself? Where exactly have I gone wrong? Is there something I’m missing? These questions plagues daily,  Who can I tell that wouldn’t judge me, Who can I trust with these information No one but myself. Built up a mechanism that in my mind prevents me from getting hurt,  Looking strong to the world but deep down I’m gasping for air. Self worth is to be learnt before anything else.