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The little things that matter series-Ep.2-TRUST

Everyone has that moment where he or she has felt so alone and out of place, majorly because you tend to place too much value on what didn't need that much attention. Myself as an example, i meet new people and interact (which is something i hardly ever do) then boom in my mind I've got new friends that would be my ride or die and i begin playing the friend role; at this point in my mind, i have believed that if i can make myself uncomfortable for you then you can do the same for me but is that really how it works?, how easily do you trust people and what result do you get out of it.

According to the Cambridge dictionary, TRUST is defined as

to believe that someone is good and honest and will not harm you, or that something is safe and reliable:

Quick question,how many of them  you call 'FRIENDS' can you proudly say in your time of need they wouldn't loose guard you? this is one question i have learnt to ask myself each time i call someone my friend. Funny thing is there are people out there that you call acquaintance that are actually supposed to be the 'FRIEND' but sadly the roles are being reversed; not to get me wrong, having friends is alright but how many can say the same, how many can trust you like you trust them, how many can bend their back for you. Don't get me wrong this isn't a one sided thing, do you also bend your back for this people cause one thing to remember friendship is a two way thing.

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  1. Prince EphraimJanuary 12, 2020 at 11:44 AM

    Wow...this is nice.
    #TRUST

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  2. Prince EphraimJanuary 12, 2020 at 11:47 AM

    Just to ask should we always expect something from a friend...cause basically I could love a friend because I want to, not because I'm expecting you to love me back or show me some certain favour in return...I'm just saying

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    1. Mrs BJanuary 12, 2020 at 12:39 PM

      I'm not saying you should love a friend to expect something in return what I'm saying is can that person give you the same energy you give them

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  3. Prince EphraimJanuary 12, 2020 at 11:47 AM

    Just to ask should we always expect something from a friend...cause basically I could love a friend because I want to, not because I'm expecting you to love me back or show me some certain favour in return...I'm just saying

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  4. promterJanuary 12, 2020 at 3:31 PM

    Fact been told trusting a friend does not depend on if that person is willing to trust you in return just like from your old post “you have to be able to come straight and treat an issue “ so I believe that before creating a friendship in your head take your time to observe ,screen that friendship, ask reasonable questions on things you hate act like you like them and see what their options are on it because a lot of people of this present generation tend to accept something because the society or someone accepts it and not because they really do so in all essence what I’m saying is that give that friendship Time , try to look for the negative things you don’t like see if you can deal with it or let it slide .BE SURE OF WHAT YOU WANT AND DON’T LET YOUR EMOTIONS CLOUD YOUR JUDGEMENT

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    1. Mrs BJanuary 13, 2020 at 12:59 AM

      That's exactly my point not everyone is willing to take that sacrifice to screen the person they call friend. I for example it took me a great lesson to get my head right with this friendship thing; i thought i had already made a friend in someone already and completely forgot about the actual formalities it took me all the great disagreements and difference in personalities,training, and understanding a person to come back to my senses

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  5. AmaraJanuary 12, 2020 at 9:53 PM

    I saw a write up this morning that said " don't expect you in others"
    It really hit me cos for along time I've been expecting people to do back what I do to them or treat me in similar manner. I've come to accept the fact that no two persons are the same. My friends may not be the type to put in the same energy I put in or may even put in greater energy than me. Either ways if I can't deal with the other person's attitude I walk away, cos the only person that's got your back like you do is you.

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    1. Mrs BJanuary 13, 2020 at 1:03 AM

      It took me a great deal too to learn that even though I'M still in the learning process

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  6. AnonymousJanuary 13, 2020 at 4:44 AM

    I'd suggest that even if you're trusting a person it shouldn't be a 💯 because it could be broken. Always expect the worst

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  7. UnknownJanuary 13, 2020 at 12:37 PM

    Being there for people is a great thing.
    But it's sad when you need someone and there is no one around to be there for you..
    It gets you thinking that do the people you love and would give anything for even care for you at all... The funny thing is that there will always be 1 person at least that will be there for you... You just need to draw closer to that person, the person may be someone you see as an acquaintance...

    But all the same, never think that because no one cares, you will stop caring..

    God never stopped and will never stop loving us no matter how many times we go against his word

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  8. Mrs BJanuary 14, 2020 at 2:12 AM

    Truth

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